Femi Fani-Kayode’s Wife Delivers Triplets

Femi Fani-Kayode, former Special Assistant to President Obasanjo on Public Affairs is bursting with joy for the triple good news in his household, as his wife delivers triplets. Femi shared the news and a picture on his social media handle. Femi wrote:

“I give thanks to God for the birth of my three beautiful sons Ragnar, Aiden and Liam this morning. They are so beautiful. Precious and the three boys are doing very well. Today is her birthday: what a wonderful birthday gift that the Lord has given to us. To God be the glory!”

Congratulations to the couple from ZaaPost!

Actor, Bill Cosby Found Guilty of Sexual Assault

A United States jury found comedian and actor, Bill Cosby guilty in the drugging and sexual assault of Andrea Constand that reportedly happened at his home nearly 14 years ago. He was found guilty of three counts of aggravated indecent assault for drugging and sexually assaulting Andrea. The actor, who is 80 years old is out on bail and has not been sentenced, but faces 10 years on each count. [adToAppearHere]

Dozens of other women have accused Cosby of drugging and sexual assault and his case is one of the first high profile trials since the #MeToo movement.  Cosby’s defense team plans to appeal the verdict.

Chimamanda’s Response To Critics: “I am an unapologetic fan of Ms. Clinton”

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, a world accomplished author has been trending online regarding her comment that the United States former Secretary of State, Hillary Clinton, should not use “wife” as the first descriptor of herself in her twitter account.  During the interview, which was clearly done in a light-hearted manner, the author humorously told Ms. Clinton that she was “annoyed” by her use of wife as the first word to describe herself. This has generated a heated debate and criticism against the author, with many suggesting she lacks humility. The author has responded and she is not amused that her comment in her view was misconstrued. Ms. Adichie particularly called out a critic who told her to “shut-up.” She denounced Nigerians who are too quick to conclude without considering all facts. Read the full post below:

Dear Unnamed Person Who I Am Told Is On Social Media Saying I am Her Family and Telling Me to Shut Up:

Cynicism is ugly. It doesn’t flatter anyone. Yours doesn’t suit you at all.

I remember you vaguely; I think you were in my class in primary school. And now you claim to be my ‘family’ and you are asking me to shut up.

Did you watch the video of the conversation? Did you read a full transcript?

I am tired of Nigerians who read a headline and, without bothering to get details and context, jump on the outrage bandwagon and form lazy, shallow opinions.

I am tired of Nigerians cynically thinking of anybody in public life as a ‘brand.’ No, I am not a brand. I am a person who feels strongly about certain issues. I choose to talk honestly about them. I made the choice to talk about feminism knowing very well the kind of hostility it brings – but I think it’s important and I will continue to speak my truth and hope to bring about some change, no matter how small. Adirom agba egwu ka m data ego.

No, of course you don’t actually deserve a response, but I have some free time today. So I want to make you feel a little important because it sounds like you need it.

And I want to reflect on an absolutely lovely hour spent on stage with Hillary Clinton.

I was happy when I was told that Hillary Clinton had specifically requested to be in conversation with me at the PEN World Voices festival. I am an unapologetic fan of Ms. Clinton’s. I have been for many years.

I felt quite emotional when I met her. Having read and followed her for years, it was moving to see her: the warm, human, observant, present, thoughtful person (and looking wonderful, with her hair and makeup on point!).

She said she had read my books and I restrained myself from doing cartwheels.

“Is there anything you don’t want to talk about?” I asked backstage.

“Ask me anything,” she said.

Towards the end of our conversation, I told her how, having read her writing about her own life, I think she has a great love story with Bill Clinton. A wonderful friendship. I said I feel irritated and protective of her when people dissect her personal life, but I also confessed to having an interest myself, particularly about her public Twitter profile. (I first noticed it when I was researching a piece about her during the presidential campaign). I was upset that the first word used to describe her was ‘wife.’ Was it a choice she had made or was it something done for her campaign and, if it was a choice she had made, did she think my reaction to it was fair?

Her response was very thoughtful.

I was too excited, emotional, slightly nervous, to be on stage with this remarkable woman. Had I kept in mind how easily outrage-mongers would jump on a headline, I would have phrased my question better. I would not have made it about my being upset, because it can come across as navel-gazing.

But the truth is that we were supposed to be having a ‘conversation,’ the context of our conversation was personal and warm, I had made the decision to speak from the heart, and it would be dishonest to pretend that I had not reacted personally to so many issues around Ms. Clinton, whose life has become a kind of crucible of all the questions that affect women.

We all react personally to public figures. And I WAS upset that the Twitter bio of a woman who is the most accomplished person to run for President of the United States, would begin with ‘wife.’ And considering her personal history, it just didn’t seem to fit.

I felt that ‘wife’ was used as an attempt to placate all the men and women who will not vote for a woman unless they are able to see her FIRST in domestic terms.

Yes, it’s just Twitter. But it matters. It’s a public platform. It’s where people go to hear directly from her.

And there is context to consider.

In LIVING HISTORY, Ms.Clinton writes that the two most difficult decisions she has made in her life were staying married to Bill Clinton and running for the senate seat in New York.

Women, especially women in public life, face a lot of societal pressure about how to be, how to live, much more than men do. Women in public life are considered ‘cold’ and ‘un-relatable’ unless they define themselves in domestic terms. Women’s accomplishments are often considered incomplete unless they have also ticked the ‘marriage’ box. These things are not true of men, even though marriage can be a wonderful thing for both men and women.

Feminism is indeed about choice. But it is intellectually lazy to suggest that, since everything is about ‘choice,’ none of these choices can be interrogated. Choices are never made in a vacuum. And sometimes, for women, choices are not always real choices.

After she got married, Ms. Clinton kept her name, but she was so viciously criticized for this that she then took on her husband’s name. Was this a ‘choice?’ Would she have done so if she wasn’t being attacked and if she didn’t want to feel responsible for her husband’s potential losing of votes?

During the last presidential campaign, she was expected to account for the policies of her husband’s administration. She was labeled an enabler of sexual harassment. She was accused of cynically staying married because she wanted to benefit politically.

Much of Ms. Clinton’s public image is a caricature of a person who is untrustworthy, calculated, cold, dishonest. That caricature has its roots in her early public life when she was the First Lady of Arkansas.

Her crime was that she did not conform to the traditional role of First Lady. She had kept her name. She clearly considered herself to be her husband’s equal partner. She did not intend merely to be a Wife. She had her own dreams, her own ambition. She dared to say that she wasn’t planning on ‘staying home and baking cookies,’ which was not about denigrating stay-at-home mothers but simply about saying that that was not what she wanted to do.

A small comment about a small thing, but it was significant and revolutionary because she was consciously resisting the status quo.

But she was attacked for that. Horrendously. And those attacks were repeated so often that they stuck and they contributed to her being reduced to a caricature.

It was therefore upsetting to see her first descriptor as ‘wife.’ The question isn’t about including ‘wife’ in her Twitter bio. The question is about giving ‘wife’ a certain primacy as the first word that describes her, and it speaks to larger questions about the societal expectations placed on women.

Ms. Clinton wrote in her most recent book WHAT HAPPENED, that she ran for president because she thinks she would have been a ‘damned good president.’

She certainly would have been. And so I suggested, half-joking, that ‘Would have been a damned good president’ is a perfect Twitter bio start. And then mother and wife and grandma and Senator and hair icon etc could follow!

I completely stand by my question and by my conviction that it is a subject that matters.

I had a truly enlightening evening on that stage with Ms. Clinton, and was once again awed by her grit, her humanity, her sparkling intelligence.

After the conversation, Ms. Clinton told me, “It was like talking to a friend.” She is now my Aunty For Life.

Oh, as for YOU, Unnamed Person, saying that I am ‘family’ to you, mbakwa biko. The people I consider family don’t ‘do petty.’

Saying “shut up” to a woman who airs an opinion is so unoriginal. Try and be a bit more inventive.

Try reasoning. Try intelligent debate. Try understanding things in context before you reveal your ignorant misogyny to the world. Try reading more than a headline. Try reading a whole book. Or two. And please keep talking. Keep speaking. Don’t ever shut up.

~CNA

 

Yvonne Nelson’s Posts Bold Breasfeeding Picture

Ghanaian actress, Yvonne Nelson seems to be giving a nod to the on-going public breastfeeding  movement as she posts a picture where she is beautifully holding her baby and breastfeeding her. This does not seem to be a break from the African tradition, as many African women (back in the days though) are not ashamed to breastfeed their babies in public. Though this trend in Africa is gradually fading because the so called “modern women,” are now less likely to breastfeed in public, in westernized countries, especially in the United States, this has recently become a highly contested issue that has driven the public breastfeeding movement. This moment aims to make it more acceptable for women to feel free to breastfeed their babies when they choose to and for whatever reason, to do so without being publicly shamed. The movement is picking up steam as several women have been pictured in several U.S. based magazines holding their babies and breastfeeding them.

Yvonne posted on her Facebook page:
Errrmm yea…I’m still breastfeeding @rynroberts 😁…
Yvonne, also recently posted cute pictures of her baby.
Is Yvonne Nelson giving a nod to the movement or just doing her thing? You decide…

Actress, Genevieve Dances Shaku Shaku: When The Queen Dances…

When the Queen dances, people standstill and watch! Apparently, the internet is breaking as the Nigerian movie star, the world beloved Genevieve Nnaji dances Shaku Shaku. The actress posted the video on her Instagram page earlier today, with the caption #TGIF. The video has been shared on facebook about 2.7k times and has generated over 18,000 comments on Instagram. She certainly seem to be having fun in New York City!

Tonto Dikeh Preaches The Gospel: “The News of His Saving Power”

Actress,Tinto Dikeh posts beautiful pictures in traditional attire while also preaching the gospel:

*Good morning beautiful people of God,(ROR)

THE NEWS OF HIS SAVING POWER
_*Send us around the world with the news of your saving power and your eternal plan for all mankind (Psalm 67:2 TLB).*_
The Lord Jesus, in Mark 16:15, said, _*“…Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature.”*_ He commissioned us to preach the good news of God’s Kingdom, and God’s eternal plan for all humanity…

Music Moguls, Peter Okoye (P-Square) and American P. Diddy Party Together

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Peter Okoye, a Nigerian music mogul who broke away from the P-Square music group with his twin brother, meet and party with American music mogul P. Diddy. Peter is now known as Mr. P. He took to his Instagram page to share the news about the meeting:

Chimamanda and Oprah All Smiles At Tea Party Event

Nigerian award-winning author, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie attended a tea party event in honor of billionaire Oprah Winfrey, March, 11th. Chimamanda posted on her social media account that the event took place in London and was hosted by Vogue editor-in-chief, Edward Enninful. The two powerful ladies looked glamorous and were all smiles in the pictures.

Genevieve Nnaji Responds To Attack On Her France Tribute

Actress, Genevieve Nnaji responds to the barrage of criticism against her after she posted a tribute on her social media accounts in the aftermath of Nice, France attack. The actress responded to her critics by stating that love and compassion should not be restricted. She posted:

“The idea is not to limit love and compassion but to limit anger and hate. What you let out in the Universe is what spreads. Everyone has a platform to effect change so pay good attention to what you do with yours. WE ARE THE WORLD therefore ‪#‎changeisinourhands‬ . The sooner we accept it the better. ❤️✌🏾😊”

Nnaji responds